5.Toys

You've always wanted to but was a bit nervous. Now is the time to experiment. Glass dildos, dildos with suction cups, and dildos that vibrate and come with clitorial sucking apparatus. You have options. If butt-plugs are your thing start with the tip of a finger and then proceed in size as you become more comfortable. Make sure you have lube on deck.

Some of my recommendations:

• Clit Sucker - Double Penetration Purple Dildo 
• Waterproof Wand

4.Ambiance

Lights! Camera! Action! The Bedroom...or Kitchen, wherever you and your partner decide on, should have a seductive ambiance. Some ways to create a seductive ambiance is with:

• Red bedroom lights/Dim the lights
• Resin/Bakhoor Incense
• Massage Oil
• Candles
• Soft music
• Silk sheets
• Lingerie
• Floor mirrors
• Cut off the TV!

3. Role Play

Cops and Robbers with an adult twist? Tarzan and Jan? Strangers? Maid? Get creative.

2.Communication

No one knows your body better than you. Speak up about what feels good, what you want to experience more of, and what fantasies you have in mind. Make sure the conversation goes both ways. You should know the desires of your partner as well. Normalize talking about sex and what brings you pleasure. And don't forget to listen to the needs of your partner with no judgment. 

1. Seek Mental Health

Contrary to what overzealous politicians and greedy business owners may say, we are living in a global pandemic and our lives have been changed forever. Many of us have lost partners, lovers, family members, jobs, and a sense of sanity. We've suffered from anxiety, depression, physical health ailments, and much much more before COVID-19 and the stress and uncertainty of the pandemic are likely exaggerating those issues. 

Get help. We weren't designed to go through life alone. Many insurance providers are waiving therapy co-payments. See if you qualify. Find a therapist who fits your needs and who you feel comfortable with. If therapy isn't an option, call a trusted friend or relative. Baths, candles, and journaling can be amazing Self-Care tools but it's absolutely a good idea to get to the root of your issues. You are never alone :)